What Your Sleep Position Says About Your Relationship

About dating and marriage, the way you sleep can be a passive-aggressive way to say, “I don’t trust you,” “I’m angry,” or, “I can’t get enough of you.”

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Because your subconscious mind controls the way you sleep with your partner, sleep body language can be an amazingly accurate way to assess what’s going on in your relationship — even if you can’t or don’t articulate those things while you’re awake, says Patti Wood, a body language expert with more than 30 years of experience and author of Success Signals, A Guide to Reading Body Language.

Of course, there are always exceptions — if you are and always have been a sleep kicker, you can’t blame your partner for sleeping far away from you. But when your or your partner’s sleep position suddenly changes, use these clues to decode what it means:

You’re the little spoon

 You're the little spoon
You’re the little spoon

In this position, your partner envelops you in a way that feels simultaneously intimate and secure. Because it involves some serious contact, “it’s a very vulnerable position that’s sexual, but says, ‘I trust you,'” Wood says.

You’re the big spoon

This says you’re protective of your partner and maybe even a bit possessive.

 You spoon a few inches apart.

 You spoon a few inches apart
You spoon a few inches apart

New couples tend to have the most physical contact in bed, but when the novelty of bed-sharing wears off, it’s common to revert to the positions that make you feel most comfortable and produce the best quality sleep, says Paul Rosenblatt, author of Two in a Bed: The Social System of Couple Bed Sharing. Sometimes, that means spooning a few inches apart. It’s like the big spoon saying, “I’ve got your back, you can count on me,” but it’s not as sexual as spooning closer, Woods says.

Your partner cradles your head on his chest

 Your partner cradles your head on his chest.
Your partner cradles your head on his chest.

A face-up sleeping position indicates confidence and self-assurance. When your partner sleeps on his back with your head in his arms, it says, “I have the power and I’m using it to protect you,” Wood says. When you, in turn, face your partner in a fetal position, it shows you depend on him. If you sleep with your head on his chest and the rest of your body sprawled out, it sends the message that you want to make decisions for yourself, Wood says.

You

face each other.
face each other.

When you sleep face-to-face, it’s an unconscious attempt to look your partner in the eye throughout the night. If your partner suddenly starts facing you, there’s a good chance he feels distant and wants to connect, or is hungry for more intimacy — especially if he presses his pelvis against yours.

You sleep on your stomachs

You sleep on your stomachs
You sleep on your stomachs

Because sleeping on your stomach protects the front of your body, the position could be a sign of anxiety, vulnerability, and lack of sexual trust, Wood says. Unless there are back or neck issues, people tend to face the bed because they don’t want to or are afraid to face their emotions, Wood says. If your partner suddenly starts sleeping face down, you can cozy up to make him feel more protected.

You sleep on opposite sides of the bed

This says you’re independent or have a desire to be more separate. If you’re typically snuggly sleepers though, this position could be a red flag that something isn’t right, whether that means stress at work or an untold secret.

You sleep on opposite sides of the bed
You sleep on opposite sides of the bed

That said, many people start out snuggling to warm up or show affection, then gravitate toward opposite sides of the bed for a random reason — it could be because your partner has sharp toenails, kicks in his sleep, or moves around too much, or because you get hot when you sleep skin to skin, Rosenblatt says.

Also worth noting: Some couples actually get along better when they stop trying so hard to snuggle all night — probably because it can enable you to sleep more soundly and without interruption, which improves your interactions the next day.

If you don’t like to touch while you sleep, schedule 15 minutes in the morning or at night to snuggle up and in turn strengthen your relationship, suggests Wood.

You sleep facing away from each other with your butts touching

This position suggests you’re a confident couple that appreciate your own space: The facing away from each other hints at the ability and desire to be independent, while the butt touch shows you still want to stay sexually connected, Wood says.

facing away from each other with your butts touching
facing away from each other with your butts touching

For what it’s worth, lots of people prefer to sleep facing the outside of the bed to avoid breathing face-to-face, Rosenblatt says. So this position could mean you’re sick and tired of your partner’s snoring (not your partner himself).

You sleep with nothing touching but your feet or legs

Being far from the brain and the first part of your body to react in the case or a flight or flight response, the feet are the most honest portion of the body, under the least conscious control, Wood says. If your partner plays footsie with you in bed, it means he craves an emotional or sexual connection.

sleep with nothing touching but your feet or legs.
sleep with nothing touching but your feet or legs.

You sleep with your legs and arms totally entwined

When you sleep with arms and legs tangled, it’s a sign that you can’t get enough of each other — even while you sleep. “It means your lives are intertwined, that you function as a pair. You probably finish each other’s sentences and take care of each other,” Wood says.

sleep with your legs and arms totally entwined
sleep with your legs and arms totally entwined

You sleep different distances from the headboard

People who sleep closer to the headboard tend to feel more dominant and confident, while those who place their heads further away from it could be more subservient and have lower self-esteem, Wood says. Couples who sleep with their heads at the same level are on the same page. Heads that touch are even better: It’s a sign that you have like minds and know what’s going on in each other’s heads, Wood says.

16 Secrets to Steal From Couples Married for 50+ Years (Part 2)

>>16 Secrets to Steal From Couples Married for 50+ Years (Part 1)

9. Get professional help when you need it

“I’m not Cinderella, and he’s not Prince Charming,” says Sherri. “Glitches along the way are normal because it’s hard to live together all these years. We went to a marriage counselor at one point because we were going in different directions and needed professional help. You always have to keep working on relationship.”

16 Secrets to Steal From Couples Married for 50+ Years
16 Secrets to Steal From Couples Married for 50+ Years

10. Expect that there will be crises.

 “Life is going to hit you with curve balls,” insists Evelyn Brier, whose husband, Alan, started out as a childhood friend. They married when they reconnected after college. “But you have to stick it out. People give up too soon, too easily. It’s how you handle those lows together that makes the difference in life. There will be strains, yet it gets easier, and in many ways, better.”

16 Secrets to Steal From Couples Married for 50+ Years
16 Secrets to Steal From Couples Married for 50+ Years

11. Love means being a team.

“I know Alan is there for me,” Evelyn, 76, says of her 78-year-old husband. “I was sick with breast cancer four years ago, and he was right there. It was important, and satisfying, to know that there’s someone who genuinely cares about my wellbeing. That’s what love does.”

12 Never stop showing affection.

Fifty-three years after they walked the aisle, the Briers still grab each other’s hands. “If you continue holding hands and you’re content, that’s what’s important,” says the mother of four. “Is the sex going to be what it was when you first got married? No, it changes and is replaced with things just as satisfying and fulfilling.”

16 Secrets to Steal From Couples Married for 50+ Years
16 Secrets to Steal From Couples Married for 50+ Years

13 Talk out issues in person.

Texting, emailing, and messaging don’t make couples’ communication any clearer, says Judy Terry. Before smartphones, “you either said something or you didn’t,” when conflicts came up. So the mom of four and husband Harold speak up because hashing out problems via keyboard is taking the “easy way out rather than talking about it face-to-face.”

14 Have a standing date — without the kids.

“When you have children and everything revolves around them, you see a lot of divorces once they leave home,” says Judy, 72, who goes out on a breakfast date every Friday morning with Harold, 75. “We don’t let anything interrupt that. It gets us started that day, then mostly we do everything together afterward.” The outing is special, she adds, “Because it’s a time for us to talk and feel close together.”

16 Secrets to Steal From Couples Married for 50+ Years
16 Secrets to Steal From Couples Married for 50+ Years

15 History doesn’t have to be repeated

“I came from a divorced family and didn’t want that to happen to our kids,” says Judy, who has been married to Harold for 55 years. The Lakewood, Colorado, parents of four were neighbors and tied the knot when Judy was an 18-year-old high school student. “So I think from that perspective you try a lot harder because you don’t want your kids to go through what you did.”

16 Pick your battles

“Learning the limits you have with each other, and not trying to change someone, is important so you know when to let things go,” says Judy Terry of what she’s learned in marriage to Harold. “You can’t be right all the time, and pushing someone too much only causes problems. It’s easy to spend way too much time working on all the small stuff.”

16 Secrets to Steal From Couples Married for 50+ Years (Part 1)

Fifty years ago, marriage looked pretty different: The average age for saying “I Do” was lower (20 for women and 23 for men in 1965, versus 27 and 30 today) and the percentage of people getting hitched was higher (70% to our 50%). But the fact that sharing a life together is both challenging and rewarding hasn’t changed. Here’s how a few still-going-strong couples have made their love last.

>>Number 1 sign you’re in a serious dating

1.Talk to each other, don’t vent to friends

16 Secrets to Steal From Couples Married for 50+ Years
16 Secrets to Steal From Couples Married for 50+ Years
Sure, Jean and Daniel Terry in America have gotten irritated with each other during their 55-year marriage, yet the duo don’t gripe to pals. “People, in my belief, get too much advice and generally the wrong advice,” he says. “Other people just tie your problems up in knots and make them bigger. It’s best to work things out among yourselves.”

2. Never stop creating shared memories

Even though the Terrys married young (they were both 18), Jean says Daniel “never went off with the guys to do things. What we did, we always did together.” When they traveled, she says, “We went together, not separately. I think that’s important.”

16 Secrets to Steal From Couples Married for 50+ Years
16 Secrets to Steal From Couples Married for 50+ Years

3. Kids makes marriage stronger

Jean was 19 when she and Daniel, now 73, welcomed the first of their three children. (And the second followed just 13 months later!) “I’ve never been sorry for raising the kids when we were young,” says the now 72-year-old grandmother of seven. “Now, we’re fortunate that our kids all live within 30 minutes of us so we can have get-togethers often.”

4.Give each other personal space

 “I credit still being married to living in a big house,” says Maureen McEwan of the Maine couple’s staying power the last 50 years. “I need space. I need to know that I can be by myself and [have room to be] artistic.” On

16 Secrets to Steal From Couples Married for 50+ Years
16 Secrets to Steal From Couples Married for 50+ Years

the other hand, her husband, Tom, is “happy with 10 books a week in a leather chair.”

5. Marriage is not always 50/50

Often, one person has to compromise or live outside their comfort zones. For Maureen, it was getting to be the “social person” she is despite her husband’s more introverted nature. “I had lots of kids over all the time,” says the 73-year-old mother of three, who met Tom on a group blind date, with another man. “For years, I filled the house with people and kids and whatever else and I don’t think he’s always been totally comfortable … but he put up with it.”

6. Make an effort to look your best

 Growing up as family friends, Sherri and Charlie Sugarman have gone through nearly every life stage together. (This photo was taken when she was 4 and he was 5!) Now 71 and 72, respectively, Charlie says, “It’s important for couples to maintain sense of vanity” and take care of themselves as part of a happy marriage. “It’s nice if you can stay in shape,” he adds. “Then you stay attractive to each other — and stay healthier.”

16 Secrets to Steal From Couples Married for 50+ Years
16 Secrets to Steal From Couples Married for 50+ Years

7. Embrace your individuality

 That whole “better half” idea? Ditch it. “It’s important to be your own person,” says Sherri of her 51 years of marriage to Charlie. “You want to compliment each other and bring interest to the conversation.”

8, Don’t overlook small family moments

 Sherri loves cooking dinner — especially for Charlie. “It’s a time where we sit down and really talk together,” explains the mother of two, who adds they work to be off their phones. “In the age of technology, I think it’s really important to take the time to be a good listener.”

Couples Who Sleep Apart Have More Intimacy

Want a healthier relationship and better intimacy? One sex expert says the trick is sleeping in separate beds.

Writer Rachel Kramer Bussel, author of Dirty Dates: Erotic Fantasies for Couples, claims her relationship with her live-in boyfriend drastically improved when they stopped sharing the bed. “We figured out early on that we just weren’t compatible sleeping next to each other,” Kramer Bussel told Yahoo Health. “Neither of us slept well, we were grouchy, and we were meaner to each other because of it.”

Couples Who Sleep Apart Have More Intimacy
Couples Who Sleep Apart Have More Intimacy

And she’s not alone: Various new research has found that 11% to 40% of couples sleep apart at night. And earlier studies found that it can be bad for your health — and makes your sleep quality up to 50% worse.

After a miserable first night in a hotel this May, Kramer Bussel says the next night she grabbed the comforter and happily fell asleep in the bathtub. It was a revelation. So when they started looking for apartments together, they only considered two-bedrooms. “Once we realized it wasn’t working and that we could easily have separate bedrooms, we did it,” she adds. “The rest of our relationship and daily lives are predicated on sleeping well.”

Surprisingly, it’s made their relationship more intimate, not less. “I never feel ‘separate’ from my boyfriend,” she says, adding that they kiss goodnight and good morning and say they love each other all the time.

Having separate bedrooms can enhance intimacy, she notes, since “when we are in bed together, almost always in his room, that it’s our time to be with each other, not just a generic time to go to a bed that we happen to share … We’re there because we both want to be there.”

Couples Who Sleep Apart Have More Intimacy
Couples Who Sleep Apart Have More Intimacy

It’s also worked for Jennifer Adams and her husband, who have slept apart for 11 years and counting. “Is that really the only thing that allows you to have sex?” Adams, author of Sleeping Apart, Not Falling Apart, told the Chicago Tribune. “Sometimes my husband will FaceTime me and invite me to bed … It doesn’t stop you from having sex. It just doesn’t.”

She says that it’s given them a stronger level of communication — and a better night’s rest. “We’ve just kept talking,” she says, adding they’ve proved many doubting family and friends wrong. “And we still hop into each other’s beds, and I’ll lie in his bed at night until he kicks me out at 8:30 because he wants to go to sleep. You make it work because you want to make it work.”

And Kramer Bussel says that she, at least, hasn’t encountered too many doubters. “Maybe because we are clearly in love and affectionate with each other, I think people can tell that ‘separate bedrooms’ isn’t code for ‘relationship problems.'”

Causes Sexual Problems in Men

A sexual problem, or sexual dysfunction, refers to a problem during any phase of the sexual response cycle that prevents the individual or couple from experiencing satisfaction from the sexual activity. The sexual response cycle has four phases: excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution.

Causes Sexual Problems in Men
Causes Sexual Problems in Men

While research suggests that sexual dysfunction is common (43% of women and 31% of men report some degree of difficulty), it is a topic that many people are hesitant to discuss. Fortunately, most cases of sexual dysfunction are treatable, so it is important to share your concerns with your partner and doctor.

What Causes Sexual Problems?

Sexual dysfunction can be a result of a physical or psychological condition.

Causes Sexual Problems in Men
Causes Sexual Problems in Men
  • Physical causes: Many physical and/or medical conditions can cause problems with sexual function. These conditions include diabetes,heart and vascular (blood vessel) disease, neurological disorders, hormonal imbalances, chronic diseases such as kidney or liver failure, and alcoholism and drug abuse. In addition, the side effects of certain medications, including some antidepressant drugs, can affect sexual desire and function.
  • Psychological causes: These include work-related stress and anxiety, concern about sexual performance, marital or relationship problems, depression, feelings of guilt, and the effects of a past sexual trauma.

8 Common Mistakes That Are Ruining Your Marriage

Nobody’s perfect, but it seems there are some mistakes that have more dire consequences on your love relationship than others. Make your marriage a success by avoiding these relationship traps.

“If they love me enough, they’ll change to please me.” So many believe that they can and will change their partner. It’s only a matter of time. They say, “If he loves me enough, he’ll change that small thing to please me.” But to your partner, that “small thing” isn’t so small. Even if they do try to change to please you, very often they become resentful. “You don’t love me for myself, but for the person you want me to be,” they say. And it’s true. When you try to change them they feel you don’t really love them. You just want to turn them into someone to fill your needs.

 MISTAKE 2: FEELING LIKE YOU’RE A FAILURE IN RELATIONSHIPS

FEELING LIKE YOU'RE A FAILURE IN RELATIONSHIPS
FEELING LIKE YOU’RE A FAILURE IN RELATIONSHIPS

When some people see that things aren’t working they become depressed. They start to feel as though they’re not loveable, that destiny is against them or that they will always be a failure in love. The truth is that you’re not a failure. You simple have not yet been taught important truths about relationships. Once you learn and practice new ideas and methods, you’ll be able to handle your life in a way you may have never thought possible.

MISTAKE 3: BELIEVING YOU HAVE TO BE “GOOD ENOUGH” TO KEEP THEIR LOVE

BELIEVING YOU HAVE TO BE "GOOD ENOUGH" TO KEEP THEIR LOVE
BELIEVING YOU HAVE TO BE “GOOD ENOUGH” TO KEEP THEIR LOVE

Many feel they’re not “good enough”. They feel they have to turn into a pretzel to keep someone’s love. Recently a woman came to me and said, “I finally found a wonderful man but I’m miserable in the relationship. Everyday I worry that he’ll find out who I really am and leave.” This woman not only expected rejection, she actually did little things to bring it about. Soon she began to sabotage the relationship, finding fault with him at every turn. Although she didn’t realize it, she did this to feel better about herself. The truth is we can never earn another person’s love. The more we try the worse we feel. We must simply understand that who we truly are is entirely loveable. We must learn to make friends with ourselves.

MISTAKE 4: REJECTING YOUR PARTNER SO THEY CAN’T DO IT FIRST

Many reject their partners as protection individuals against being rejected themselves. The bottom line is these may not feel they deserve a relationship, they feel they can’t hold onto a partner because they haven’t accepted themselves.

8 Common Mistakes That Are Ruining Your Marriage
8 Common Mistakes That Are Ruining Your Marriage

MISTAKE 5: BELIEVING YOUR PARTNER SHOULD READ YOUR MIND, AND KNOW WHAT YOU WANT WITHOUT YOUR “COMMUNICATING” CLEARLY

“If he/she really loved me, they’d know what I needed and give it to me.” Many believe that if their partners really loved them, they would read their minds. It wouldn’t be necessary to have to actually ask for what they wanted. This is one of the most serious mistakes people make in relationships. Without truthful, open, communication no relationship can flourish. Effective communication, however, can be a skill. And though you may feel that you have repeated yourself a thousand times, that YOU HAVE communicated. There are available communication techniques which, in and of themselves, can save your relationship. Not only is it necessary to know what you want, and to ask for it clearly (without producing guilt) — it is also necessary to be able to accept both yes and no.

MISTAKE 6: BELIEVING IT’S YOUR PARTNER’S JOB TO MAKE YOU HAPPY

Your partner is not there to meet all your needs. If he/she says no, it doesn’t mean he/she doesn’t love you. Some demands may be impossible to fulfill. It is not your partner’s job to make you happy. Your partner should be here to grow and share with you.You must learn to make yourself happy, and make others happy as well. Love is based upon communicating, consideration and giving. First, however, you must be happy with yourself, before another can make you happy.

MISTAKE 7: BELIEVING IT’S HARD TO GET HIM TO TALK

8 Common Mistakes That Are Ruining Your Marriage
8 Common Mistakes That Are Ruining Your Marriage

“No matter what I do I can’t get him to talk, and I do not believe he is sharing all of his honest feelings with me.” Many women claim they can’t get men to talk. When time comes for intimate conversation guys clam up, offer a few grunts and expect women to magically understand what’s going on. Women feel shut out and men feel misunderstood. However, there is something women don’t realize. Men want to talk. Under the right conditions, they’ll talk all night long. Men desperately want to let others know what’s going on. However, something else many don’t realize is, men are more fragile than women. In order for them to talk, things have to be right. All that’s needed here is to learn how to create the right conditions, what is necessary for a man to feel safe enough with you to talk.

MISTAKE 8: BEING ADDICTED TO FIGHTING

Many couples keep relationships alive and exciting by fighting. When they see their partner upset, it reassures them that they care. Others have seen their parents fighting and this is the only role model they have. Some are addicted to the “high” they get out of fighting. A few crave the feeling of domination or control. Domination is not love. If it hurts, it is abuse, not love.

8 Foods That Can Improve Your Sex Life

Lobster

Lobster
Lobster

Sure, part of its appeal is the special-occasion nature, not to mention all that licking of butter off your fingers. But you may eschew this crustacean in fear that a heavy, fatty meal will slow you down sexually. Turns out, lobster doesn’t deserve its tag as a high-fat food (except when slathered in said butter!). In fact, it’s a good source of lean protein, copper, zinc and selenium. Zinc, in particular, has been linked with a healthy male libido, says deVillers. Lobster is also chock full of the mineral phosphorus, which boosts bothyour sex drives, says Balleck. Plus, its concentration of essential fatty acids may increase sensitivity in your sex organs.

Leafy Green Veggies

Leafy Green Veggies
Leafy Green Veggies

It may not be easy being green, but it is sexy. Kale, spinach and other leafy greens are high in vitamin A, which is a great hormone-balancer because it supports proper endocrine function, says Balleck. “These foods also contain iodine, an essential mineral for proper function of your thyroid and adrenal glands, which in turn help regulate your mood,” she adds. It’s hard to feel great about sex if you don’t feel, well, great, so fill up on some greens.

Strawberries

Strawberries
Strawberries

How to Find Lasting Love

A healthy, loving relationship can enhance many aspects of your life, from your emotional and mental well-being to your physical health and overall happiness. For many of us, though, finding someone we want to share our lives with can seem like an impossible task. But don’t despair, even if you have a history of relationships that don’t last or if you feel burned out by traditional and online dating, you can still learn how to find lasting love.

Obstacles to finding lasting love

Life as a single person offers many rewards, including learning how to build a healthy relationship with yourself. However, if you’re ready to share your life with someone and want to build a lasting, worthwhile relationship, life as a single person can also be very frustrating.

How to Find Lasting Love
How to Find Lasting Love

Finding the right romantic partner is often a difficult journey, for several reasons. Perhaps you grew up in a household where there was no role model of a solid, healthy relationship and you doubt that such a thing even exists. Or maybe your dating history consists only of short, abrupt relationships where you or your partner gets bored too soon, and you don’t know how to make a relationship last. You could be attracted to the wrong type of person or keep making the same bad choices over and over, due to a unresolved issue from your past. It’s also possible you’re not putting yourself in the best environments to meet the right person, or that when you do, you don’t feel confident enough to approach someone. Whatever the case may be, it’s important to believe that a healthy romantic relationship for you exists in the future.

It’s also important to recognize that relationships are never perfect and always require lots of work, compromise, and a willingness to resolve conflict in a positive way. To find and build any relationship worth keeping, you may need to start by re-assessing some of your misconceptions about dating and relationships that can prevent you from finding lasting love

Expectations about dating and finding love

How to Find Lasting Love
How to Find Lasting Love

When we start looking for a long-term partner or enter into a romantic relationship, many of us do so with a predetermined set of (often unrealistic) expectations—such as how the person should look and behave, how the relationship should progress, and the roles each partner should fulfill. These expectations may be based on your family history, influence of your peer group, your past experiences, or even ideals portrayed in movies and TV shows. However, retaining many of these unrealistic expectations can make any potential partner seem inadequate and any new relationship feel disappointing.

The first step to finding a suitable partner is to distinguish between what you want and what you need in a partner. Wants are negotiable, needs are not. Wants include the things you think you’d like in a partner, including occupation, intellect, and physical attributes such as height, weight, and hair color. Even if certain traits may appear to be crucially important to you at first, over time you’ll often find that you’ve been needlessly limiting your choices. For example, it may be more important, or at least as important, to find someone who is:

How to Find Lasting Love
How to Find Lasting Love
  • Curious rather than extremely intelligent. Curious people tend to grow smarter over time, while those who are bright may languish intellectually if they lack curiosity.
  • Sensual rather than sexy.
  • Caring rather than beautiful or handsome.
  • A little mysterious rather than glamorous.
  • Humorous rather than wealthy.
  • From a family with similar values to yours, rather than someone from a specific ethnic or social background.

Needs are different than wants in that needs are those things that matter to you most, such as values, ambitions, or goals in life. These are probably not the things you can find out about a person by eyeing them on the street, reading their profile on a dating site, or sharing a quick cocktail at a bar before last call.

Food is Officially The Way to a Woman’s Heart

There’s about 546 reasons why food is everything, and now scientists have found another big benefit to keeping a woman well-fed. (Listen up, gentlemen!)

In a study recently published by the journal Appetite, researchers found that there was a very close correlation between a woman’s appetite and romantic desire.

Food is Officially The Way to a Woman’s Heart
Food is Officially The Way to a Woman’s Heart

Researchers looked at the brain’s reaction to hunger in 20 healthy, young women. They were asked not to eat for eight hours before the experiment. First, the participants were shown romantic images, such as people holding hands, while their brain’s activity was scanned. The women were then fed a liquid meal-replacement drink. Afterwards,  they were asked to look at the same romantic images again, now with a full stomach, as their brains were scanned once more.

Food is Officially The Way to a Woman’s Heart
Food is Officially The Way to a Woman’s Heart

The findings showed that the women were much more open to romance after they were satiated, based on the activation levels in the brain scans. In other words, a woman is more likely to, ahem, get in the mood after she enjoys a good meal.

Food is Officially The Way to a Woman’s Heart
Food is Officially The Way to a Woman’s Heart

“They were more responsive to romantic cues,”author Alice Ely, now a postdoctoral fellow at the University of California, San Diego told Time.com.”Instead of being anxious and annoyed and irritable when you’re hungry…once we’re sated, then we can get on to better things.”

Food is Officially The Way to a Woman’s Heart
Food is Officially The Way to a Woman’s Heart

The study’s authors note, though, that more research needs to be done on the subject.”It’s all very speculative, but it’s still very interesting and a sort of unexpected finding,” said Ely.

Still, you now have the best excuse ever for your partner to take you out to dinner or cook you an amazing dish: science!

Why You Should Have Sex Every Single Day

1. It could lower his risk of prostate cancer. According to a study from Harvard Medical School, men who ejaculated more often reduced their risk of developing prostate cancer by 22 percent. Researchers still don’t know why that is, but hey, if you needed one more reason to hit that tonight, having your guy avoid getting cancer is a pretty solid one.

2. Your chance of getting a cold goes way, way down. Researchers at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania found that people who had sex at least twice a week released more antigens like immunoglobulin A, which helps fight off colds and the flu, so just think of how healthy you’d be if you had sex all seven days. You’d be basically immortal is what I’m trying to say.

Why You Should Have Sex Every Single Day
Why You Should Have Sex Every Single Day

3. It keeps you looking super young and confident. In a study by Scottish researcher and clinical neuro psychologist David Weeks, judges guessed the ages of 3,500 European and American women and men, and found that the people whose age was under estimated by seven to 12 years were also reporting having sex three times a week, in comparison to the control group which was doing it twice a week. They also found these young-looking babes to be really comfortable and confident about their sexual identity. Win, win, win, win.

super young and confident
super young and confident

4. It’ll help get rid of your heinous menstrual cramps. A study done in 2000 found that 9 percent of 1,900 women were masturbating solely to get rid of their menstrual cramps. There’s no way that many masturbating women are wrong.

5. It could make you crazy-fertile, if you’re trying to conceive. A new study in Fertility and Sterility found that having sex every day could help prepare your immune system for pregnancy, which is critical in terms of increasing your chances of having a baby.

6. It lowers your blood pressure and your ability to stress out over basically nothing. A 2005 study found that people who had penile-vaginal intercourse (their words, not mine) had lower blood pressure and better stress responses than people who didn’t (or those who masturbated or had non-penetrative sex), which in theory would mean they were also way more chill. Never a bad thing.

Why You Should Have Sex Every Single Day
Why You Should Have Sex Every Single Day

7. Sex can actually make you a super genius. Separate studies by researchers at the University of Maryland and Konkuk University in Seoul, South Korea, found that mice and rats who had sex more often were also less stressed, and since stress makes your brainless able to function, that made them more intelligent thinkers.

So in theory, having sex every single day would make you febrile, live longer, never get sick, and have the brain of a genius. Basically, sex makes you a superhero. That’s my take-away from this.