Things women should know about using lube

Lube can fill a myriad of needs—whether that’s keeping the engine revving a little longer during a marathon sex-binge, making things a little bit more slippery, or introducing you to some new kinds of fun. Bottom line, lube is pretty fantastic. If you haven’t yet stocked up on a bottle but are in the market, here are some things you might want to know.

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You are not broken if you use lube (and neither is your partner)

It drives me crazy that some women really feel that way. I don’t get it! Using lube doesn’t mean that you’re not functioning. If anything, using lube makes you a connoisseur of sex and the ambassador of your own pleasure! So if anyone tells you that something is wrong with you or your body because you love lube, then they – not you – have some other issues going on.

You are not broken if you use lube (via Good Clean Love)

Don’t use oil-based lubes with condoms

Want to use baby oil or petroleum jelly? In the Guide to Getting It On, author Paul Joannides, PsyD, instructs readers to Not. Do. That. With. Condoms. It can deteriorate the latex in a condom and cause it to break. Not good. So if condoms are your only form of birth control, think wisely.

Don’t use silicone lubes with silicone sex toys

They can cause your silicone toy to break down. That said, silicone lubes are great for water play, as water-based lubes obviously wouldn’t work with that.

But silicone works with condoms

Silicone-based lubes last longer than water-based lubes (which work with both condoms and sex toys). Water-based lubes seem to a popular type of lube, but they also have a tendency to dry out more quickly, so you might need to reapply it during your sex-a-thon.

Silicone-based lubes work with condoms (via USA online news)

Popular forms of lubes could cause infections

If you are prone to yeast infections or any other non-fun infections down there, pay heed: A 2013 study published in Obstetrics & Gynecology revealed that women who used products that aren’t really supposed to go in their lady parts (like some oils or Vaseline) had higher rates of yeast and various bacterial infections, most probably because these products messed with their pH.

Oh, you might want to stay away from glycerin, too, which is found in a handful of popular ingredients, including many water-based lubricants — because nothing can put the brakes on your sex life like a nasty yeast infection or a case of bacterial vaginosis, a smelly infection, and Dr. Mary Marnach of Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota, told Reuters glycerin can lead to both. So if you want to use a slippery friend during sexy time while using condoms, read the ingredients.

Oh! And fun fact from The Guide to Getting It On: Glycerin is also an ingredient in laxatives, which means lubes with that ingredient may not bode well with anal sex.

Popular forms of lubes could cause infections (via cattitude & co.)

When all else fails … just spit

Spit is relatively cheap (free), organic, and always ready at a moment’s notice. However, spit will dry out quicker, so it’s not the best option if you’re looking for a longer, uninterrupted frolic.

There’s no catch-all for what lube works for you

Of course, when it comes to your body and your orgasm, research (and trial and error) is key, but remember: Everyone’s experience is unique. One woman may be into Uberlube, but maybe you’ll prefer Astroglide. All you can do is try and see what puts you on the fast track to crazy pleasure.

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Everything You Need to Know About the Abortion Pill

The full breakdown on where to get abortion pill, when to take it, and how safe this first-semester abortion procedure is.

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What it is

A medication abortion is not just one “abortion pill,” but a combination of two medications prescribed by a physician that work together to terminate a pregnancy and shed the uterine lining. The two medicines used are mifepristone and misoprostol. Mifepristone, which is taken first, works by blocking progesterone — a hormone necessary to sustain pregnancy — and causing the embryo to detach from the uterine wall. Misoprostol is taken within a day or two after taking the first pill, usually at home, and works by causing cramping that empties the uterus, kind of like a period.

According to stats from Planned Parenthood, a medication abortion is 98 percent effective up to eight weeks into a pregnancy. From 8-9 weeks, it’s about 96 percent effective, and then 93 percent effective from 9-10 weeks.

Abortion Pills (via Toronto Star)

Who can use it

Medication abortion is a safe (and common) procedure for terminating first-trimester pregnancies. In 2016, the FDA extended the window of approval for medication abortions from seven weeks to 10 weeks, or about two months after the first day of your last period. After 10 weeks (or on day 71 after the first day of your last period), you can opt to have an in-clinic abortion. People under 18 are able to have medication abortions, though most states require some sort of parental consent (in some cases, you need consent from two parents).

What to expect

Your physician will give you a pregnancy test and, in some states, perform a mandatory ultrasound to determine how far along you are. You’ll get written instructions from your physician on how to take the pills. Most people don’t experience any side effects after taking the first pill, mifepristone, but it’s not unusual to feel nauseous or start bleeding. Because its job is to cause the uterine lining to shed, misoprostol should cause a lot of bleeding and cramping within one to four hours of taking the first dose. Some people say this cramping feels “like normal period cramps” and don’t experience intense bleeding, but you may feel nauseous and experience intense cramping and heavy bleeding (think, soaking through a maxi pad).

Everything You Need to Know About the Abortion Pill (via blogger)

It’s not abnormal to see large clumps of tissue or blood clots after taking the misoprostol. The bleeding should start to subside after a few hours, usually around four to five, but can take longer. Cramping will continue for a day or two and decrease in intensity with time. If you’re feeling pain or nausea, your doctor can prescribe an anti-nausea medication and you can take ibuprofen — just don’t take aspirin, which is a blood thinner and can cause more bleeding.

Bleeding and spotting might continue for two to three weeks after the abortion. Your doctor will have you come back in for a follow up, where you’ll get a blood test and possibly another ultrasound to make sure the abortion was complete and you’re healthy.

What the side effects are

Other side effects include nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, dizziness, fatigue, and a mild fever (via www.self.com)

Most people compare medication abortion to the feeling of an early miscarriage — so the primary physical effects are bleeding and cramping. But other side effects include nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, dizziness, fatigue, and a mild fever up to about 100 degrees. If you have a fever higher than that, or the day after you take the misoprostol, you should call your doctor immediately. The risk of infection with a medication abortion is very low but not totally impossible. You doctor can prescribe antibiotics if you have an infection.

How safe it is

An oft-cited Princeton study from 2012 found that less than 1 percent of people who got medication abortions at Planned Parenthood from 2009-2010 had a serious side effect or incomplete abortion. The most common adverse outcome is that the abortion is incomplete, and patients can then decide between taking more medication or having an in-clinic abortion.

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6 Answers to Your Most Important Penis Questions

The following article addresses some of the most common questions that boys have about their penis and the answers.

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Is Jon Hamm walking around like that on purpose? Basically, do guys know when they’re showing?

Maybe, and maybe not. It could be that in his particular case, he’s just wearing a very thin fabric. I’d say that if the guy is wearing pants so tight you can see the head of his penis, he probably knows. If your pants are so close to your skin that your penis can’t even move, you feel that. You’re aware. If he’s wearing some mesh shorts and he’s just letting it flop around while he walks down the street, he probably doesn’t know.

How long does it take to get an erection?

Answers to Your Most Important Penis Questions

It depends on the guy, the penis, and the situation. Erections can sneak up on us slowly or happen pretty immediately. Typically, if we’re hooking up, those erections will come on fast and strong. If we’re just hanging around watching TV, it could be a few minutes between the erection “starting” and us getting fully erect.

Do guys check out another guy’s junk while peeing at a urinal?

This answer will vary from guy to guy. Personally, I think it’s rude and invasive to look unless something is going on over there. If you see steam rising up from behind the other guy’s urinal partition or he’s screaming, then it’s OK to look. If he says, “Hey, look!” you’re also allowed to look, but you probably shouldn’t in that case. I can’t imagine you’re going to see anything that compelling when a man shouts, “Hey, look!” at you in a public bathroom. I’ve never personally been in a scenario where I saw a guy and thought, Well, I should try and see what his dick looks like. I guess to answer the question, some guys never look, some probably sneak a peek every so often, and other guys look all the time.

Can your penis actually feel a difference in vaginas?

Answers to Your Most Important Penis Questions

Like if someone made a cast of all your ex-girlfriend’s vaginas and had you try all of them, would you be able to differentiate which was which? Vaginas are more like hands in that regard. You could spend all day holding your girlfriend’s hand and you might still be hard-pressed to pick her hand out of 100 other hands. You could probably tell the difference between your girlfriend holding your hand and a jacked dude with an iron grip handshake, but you’re not going to be able to pick out some of the more subtle differences. Yes, all vaginas are different. But it’d take a very discerning penis to pass the Pepsi Challenge of vaginas.

Blow job with braces: Can you actually feel a difference or is everyone a liar?

I’m not sure about this question. Typically, the fear of a braces blow job is that if your teeth catch on the penis, it can really cut it up, which is a real fear. But other than that, the blow job shouldn’t be that different. It’s not like a blow job is supposed to involve the teeth, anyway.

Why are guys so proud of their dicks?

Because everything we do in life is about our penises. We wouldn’t bother working, making money, going outside, working out, or talking to people if it didn’t benefit our penises in some way. Everything. Especially this, right now. Kidding. Mostly.

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The Key to Better Sex Is All in Your Breathing

A few secrets of yoga can help rev up your love life.

You’ve probably considered a yoga class once or twice — maybe a friend tried to convince you — but for one reason or another it never stuck and you’re still skeptical. Consider, then, one huge bonus of the practice you may not be aware of: It can improve your sex life.

Here’s how it works: The key to yoga’s claim on your sex drive is in the breathing technique used during yoga, pranayama. It releases the same chemicals in the brain as sex does, meaning you can leave the studio post-yoga with enhanced sexual desire. Plus, during your practice, certain postures increase blood flow to the pelvic region, lighting up your sexual response. The heart rate of yogis in deep meditative states can even mirror that of frenzied lovers.

You don’t even need to go to a class to reap the benefits, either. Here are five poses you can do anywhere to get you started — in more ways than one.

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Chair Pose

Chair Pose

Chair pose engages your pelvic region by forcing you to lift your pelvic floor as you lower your tailbone. It’s the same muscles that are used in Kegel exercises and it leads to more intense control of sexual organs.

Do it: Start with your feet together, toes touching. Sit your hips back and reach your arms alongside your ears, like you are about to sit in a chair. Lengthen your tailbone down to keep from crunching in the low back, lifting the pelvic floor to elongate the spine.

Seated Wide-Legged Straddle

This wide-legged forward fold increases libido by releasing tension in the groin muscles and heightening energy levels by signaling blood flow to the pelvic region.

Do it: Extend each leg to a 45-degree angle from your hip joint and flex your feet. Take a deep breath in, lengthening the torso. On the exhale, fold forward, reaching for your toes. Keep the spine lengthened as if someone is pulling the crown of your head forward. Breath deeply into the crease created at your pelvis.

Cobra Pose

Cobra Pose

Cobra pose stretches out your sex organs and increases blood circulation to the reproductive organs.

Do it: Lie on your stomach, feet together and pointed to the back of the room. Place your hands alongside your ribs for stability, press your pelvis into the mat, and use your back muscles to lift your chest off the mat. Gaze just six inches in front of you to keep from crunching your cervical spine in your neck. Try lifting your hands off of the mat to lift higher. Lower slowly.

Breathing Techniques

Fast breathing shuts down the cortex of the brain, which controls higher thinking, and allows your primitive brain and limbic system, responsible for sexual responses, to activate and release sex hormones.

Do it: Take a deep breath in, and exhale through the nose in short, sharp breaths, pumping the diaphragm as you count to 50. Take a deep breath in and out. Repeat. You can do this in a seated position, such as lotus, where you are seated with your legs crossed, or while holding other positions.

Squat Pose

Squat Pose

This deep squatting pose keeps pelvic joints healthy by forcing you to work your inner thigh muscles, pull up the pelvic floor, and engage your abdominals. It’s also thought to stimulate your sex glands and spleen.

Do it: From a standing position, place your feet hips-width distance apart with the toes turned out. Bring palms together in front of your heart, and slowly lower down toward the mat to come to hover just above the floor. Place your biceps just behind your knees to spread them wider and to help lengthen your spine, reaching your chest up to the sky.

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“Smart Condom” Can Track Your Entire Sex Life

A company from the U.K. had the same thought, and is making the idea a reality: Enter i.Con Smart Condom, a forthcoming product that bills itself as the “world’s first smart condom ring”.

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i.Con Smart Condom

"Smart Condom" Can Track Your Entire Sex Life
“Smart Condom” Can Track Your Entire Sex Life

Now, the smart condom is not an actual condom – it’s a reusable ring that sits on the base of a condom—and it’s not the first time a fitness tracker was created to measure your sack sessions. In fact, back in January, we reported on a product called “Lovely, a sextoy/fitness tracker for your penis”.

The i.Con Smart Condom works similarly to other fitness trackers: Using nanochips and sensors, the sex tracker will record the speed of your thrusts, total number of thrusts, frequency of sex, number of sex sessions, girth measurement of your penis, the different sex positions you use, and how many calories you burn during sex. The i.Con Smart Condom will be kept anonymously—unless you want to share with your friends, significant others, or flat-out strangers. Because yes, there’s an option for that.

i.Con Smart Condom
i.Con Smart Condom

Want one now?

Not so fast. While the device is available for preorder, the company won’t actually take your money—the U.S. equivalent of roughly $74—until they settle on a solid release date. There’s no official word on when that would be, but the company says they are shooting for a release sometime this year.

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How to Last Longer in Bed

You’ve tried crunching baseball stats. You’ve mentally replayed your last round of golf. You’ve outlined the steps to making your favorite sandwich. But the more you try to last longer in bed, the faster you finish—and you’re not alone.

Biofeedback

In general terms, this refers to the idea that you can regulate your own neurophysiology—or the way your body responds to physical sensations, Dr. Walsh explains.

While there are a lot of different types of biofeedback, he says one of the most common for lasting longer in bed is to bring yourself right to the edge of orgasm before stopping all sexual or masturbatory activity until you have your excitement under control.

Squeeze
The Squeeze

The Squeeze

If you can feel your orgasm coming on, stop and squeeze right below the head of your penis. Apply firm pressure with your thumb and forefinger and focus the pressure on the urethra—the tube running along the underside of the penis, advises Ian Kerner, Ph.D., a sex therapist and author of She Comes First.

The squeeze technique can help yop last longer in bed by pushing blood out of the penis and momentarily decreasing sexual tension, which represses the ejaculatory response, Kerner says.

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Ladies First

Ladies First in bed

When you help her finish first—whether with your mouth, your fingers, or a toy—knowing she’s enjoyed an orgasm may relieve some of the pressure you’re feeling to last longer in bed, Kerner says. (Need some pointers? Check out our Beginners’ Guide To Mind-Blowing Sex.)

De-Sensitizers

Like the stuff dentists slather on your gums before jamming in the needle, there are topical sprays called “local anesthetics” that you can apply to your penis to lessen the sensation and keep control, Dr. Walsh says. “When used properly, you can adjust the amount of desensitization with these sprays, and it won’t transfer to your partner,” he adds.

He says some of his patients have had luck with a product called Promescent. (Dr. Walsh is in no way affiliated with the company that makes this product.)

5 Steps to Beat Premature Ejaculation

Men, you can last longer. For years, I silently battled premature ejaculation and test-drove every bizarre remedy I stumbled upon. Follow these exercises that finally worked for me.

Master masturbation

Masturbate with a woman’s orgasm in mind, not your own. In other words, take your time: Work up to 15 minutes. Bring yourself close to the point of no return, but don’t let yourself ejaculate until time is up.

Squeeze to beat premature ejaculation

Pinpoint ejaculatory inevitability

Masters and Johnson broke the process of sexual response into four phases: excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. It’s the plateau and orgasm phases we’re most concerned with, as most men crash through the former, straight into the latter.

The trick is to slow down and recognize that there’s a spectrum of feelings throughout the process of sexual response and to recognize your own point of ejaculatory inevitability. Rate your sexual excitement on a scale of 1 to 10. Try keeping yourself at 7.

Sexercise
Sexercise

Sexercise

Do your Kegels. A Kegel is an exercise that helps tighten the pubococcygeal (PC) muscles of the pelvic floor. Both men and women have them, and you can become familiar with the muscle group by cutting off the flow of urine and then starting and stopping it repeatedly. (Begin with a full bladder.)

Press, don’t thrust

Tease her, taunt her: Press the head of your penis into her clitoral head. Linger in her vaginal entrance, where the most sensitive nerve endings are. When you do have intercourse, focus on small, shallow movements that penetrate the first 2 to 3 inches of her vaginal canal. Press your penis against her G-spot. You’ll last longer if you’re not thrusting vigorously.

Food is officially the way to a woman’s heart

There’s about 546 reasons why food is everything, and now scientists have found another big benefit to keeping a woman well-fed. (Listen up, gentlemen!)

In a study recently published by the journal Appetite, researchers found that there was a very close correlation between a woman’s appetite and romantic desire.

Food is officially the way to a woman’s heart

Researchers looked at the brain’s reaction to hunger in 20 healthy, young women. They were asked not to eat for eight hours before the experiment. First, the participants were shown romantic images, such as people holding hands, while their brain’s activity was scanned. The women were then fed a liquid meal-replacement drink. Afterwards,  they were asked to look at the same romantic images again, now with a full stomach, as their brains were scanned once more.

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There’s about 546 reasons why food is everything

The findings showed that the women were much more open to romance after they were satiated, based on the activation levels in the brain scans. In other words, a woman is more likely to, ahem, get in the mood after she enjoys a good meal.

“They were more responsive to romantic cues,”author Alice Ely, now a postdoctoral fellow at the University of California, San Diego told Time.com.”Instead of being anxious and annoyed and irritable when you’re hungry…once we’re sated, then we can get on to better things.”

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Food is officially the way to a woman’s heart

The study’s authors note, though, that more research needs to be done on the subject.”It’s all very speculative, but it’s still very interesting and a sort of unexpected finding,” said Ely.

Still, you now have the best excuse ever for your partner to take you out to dinner or cook you an amazing dish: science!

Keep your private parts healthy

“How to keep your private parts healthy ?,” says Steven Lamm, M.D., an assistant professor at the New York University School of Medicine and the author of The Hardness Factor: How to Achieve Your Best Health and Sexual Fitness at Any Age.

If you’re stressed out from work or poor relationships, suffering from depression, addicted to alcohol or drugs, or woefully overweight and out of shape, that miraculous mechanical wonder between your legs won’t work as well as it could.

Lose the Belly

Eat a healthy diet and exercise regularly to achieve ideal body weight and eliminate the fat around your gut. Abdominal fat blocks the testosterone that should be available to you, which in turn affects sexual functioning. A fat gut is a bad marker for overall health—including your sexual health.

Your penis is a barometer for your heart and artery health or a “canary in the coal mine” that can warn you of impending trouble. That’s because a penile artery is quite a bit narrower than a coronary artery. If plaque and artery hardening is starting to occur, it’ll often show up first by affecting your erection.

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Quit Smoking

Quit Smoking

“Smoking just clenches down on your blood vessels and prevents them from being reactive,” says Dr. Lamm.

Nicotine restricts penile blood flow and weakens erections. It contributes to plaque buildup in the arteries, making smokers twice as likely to experience erectile dysfunction.

Take a Walk Every Day

When you exercise, blood flow increases—blood rushes through the endothelial cells (the lining of the blood vessels) and stimulates them to make more nitric oxide, a key chemical involved in producing erections.

“The healthier a man is, the more nitric oxide he produces, and the harder his erection is,” says Dr. Lamm. Also, exercise has been shown to be as effective as medication in reducing symptoms of mild depression, another downer for penis performance.

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Take a Walk Every Day

Do a Ball Check

Testicular cancer strikes nearly 8,000 men a year, mostly young men between the ages of 15 and 40. When caught early enough, testicular cancer can be cured more than 95 percent of the time.

Left undetected, though, and it can spread to other parts of the body. Check in with your boys once a month. Here’s the play-by-play from Men’s Health urology advisor Larry Lipshultz, M.D., chief of the division of male reproductive medicine at Baylor College of Medicine.

When sex hurts

When sex hurts

Between 25 and 45 percent of postmenopausal women find when sex hurts, a condition called dyspareunia. While there are many causes, the most common reason for dyspareunia—painful sex—in women over 50 is vulvovaginal atrophy, a fancy name for a vulva and vagina that no longer have the beneficial effects from estrogen that they did prior to menopause.

As discussed earlier, lower estrogen levels significantly affect your vagina, impacting its ability to secrete lubricant, to expand and contract and to grow new cells. Over time, blood flow diminishes, and the vagina and vulva can atrophy, or shrink as cells die off and aren’t replaced.

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Deep belly pain when having sex

The good news is that vuvlovaginal atrophy is very treatable. One of the best treatments doesn’t involve medicine! Turns out that the more often you have sex, the less likely you are to develop atrophy or, at the very least, a serious case of it. That’s because sex increases blood flow to the genitals, keeping them healthy.

Other treatments  for sex hurtful include

Estrogen. As you might expect, if lack of estrogen is behind vulvovaginal atrophy, then giving back estrogen should help. Both systemic estrogens (oral pills and patches) and local estrogens (creams, rings and tablets applied to the vulva and/or vagina) work. However, most major medical organizations recommend starting with the local approach first.

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When sex hurts women

Studies on the estrogen ring, cream and tablets find extremely high rates of improvement in dyspareunia, with up to 93 percent of women reporting significant improvement and between 57 and 75 percent saying that their sexual comfort was restored, depending on the approach used.

Side effects vary. Most estrogen products applied locally are associated with minimal side effects. However, each woman’s response can differ. When using estrogen creams, pills or rings, it is important to talk to your health care provider about any symptoms, such as: headache, stomach upset, bloating, nausea, weight changes, changes in sexual interest, breast tenderness, abdominal pain, back pain, respiratory infection, vaginal itching or vaginal yeast infections.