6 Answers to Your Most Important Penis Questions

The following article addresses some of the most common questions that boys have about their penis and the answers.

>>“Smart Condom” Can Track Your Entire Sex Life

Is Jon Hamm walking around like that on purpose? Basically, do guys know when they’re showing?

Maybe, and maybe not. It could be that in his particular case, he’s just wearing a very thin fabric. I’d say that if the guy is wearing pants so tight you can see the head of his penis, he probably knows. If your pants are so close to your skin that your penis can’t even move, you feel that. You’re aware. If he’s wearing some mesh shorts and he’s just letting it flop around while he walks down the street, he probably doesn’t know.

How long does it take to get an erection?

Answers to Your Most Important Penis Questions

It depends on the guy, the penis, and the situation. Erections can sneak up on us slowly or happen pretty immediately. Typically, if we’re hooking up, those erections will come on fast and strong. If we’re just hanging around watching TV, it could be a few minutes between the erection “starting” and us getting fully erect.

Do guys check out another guy’s junk while peeing at a urinal?

This answer will vary from guy to guy. Personally, I think it’s rude and invasive to look unless something is going on over there. If you see steam rising up from behind the other guy’s urinal partition or he’s screaming, then it’s OK to look. If he says, “Hey, look!” you’re also allowed to look, but you probably shouldn’t in that case. I can’t imagine you’re going to see anything that compelling when a man shouts, “Hey, look!” at you in a public bathroom. I’ve never personally been in a scenario where I saw a guy and thought, Well, I should try and see what his dick looks like. I guess to answer the question, some guys never look, some probably sneak a peek every so often, and other guys look all the time.

Can your penis actually feel a difference in vaginas?

Answers to Your Most Important Penis Questions

Like if someone made a cast of all your ex-girlfriend’s vaginas and had you try all of them, would you be able to differentiate which was which? Vaginas are more like hands in that regard. You could spend all day holding your girlfriend’s hand and you might still be hard-pressed to pick her hand out of 100 other hands. You could probably tell the difference between your girlfriend holding your hand and a jacked dude with an iron grip handshake, but you’re not going to be able to pick out some of the more subtle differences. Yes, all vaginas are different. But it’d take a very discerning penis to pass the Pepsi Challenge of vaginas.

Blow job with braces: Can you actually feel a difference or is everyone a liar?

I’m not sure about this question. Typically, the fear of a braces blow job is that if your teeth catch on the penis, it can really cut it up, which is a real fear. But other than that, the blow job shouldn’t be that different. It’s not like a blow job is supposed to involve the teeth, anyway.

Why are guys so proud of their dicks?

Because everything we do in life is about our penises. We wouldn’t bother working, making money, going outside, working out, or talking to people if it didn’t benefit our penises in some way. Everything. Especially this, right now. Kidding. Mostly.

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“Smart Condom” Can Track Your Entire Sex Life

A company from the U.K. had the same thought, and is making the idea a reality: Enter i.Con Smart Condom, a forthcoming product that bills itself as the “world’s first smart condom ring”.

>>How to Last Longer in Bed

i.Con Smart Condom

"Smart Condom" Can Track Your Entire Sex Life
“Smart Condom” Can Track Your Entire Sex Life

Now, the smart condom is not an actual condom – it’s a reusable ring that sits on the base of a condom—and it’s not the first time a fitness tracker was created to measure your sack sessions. In fact, back in January, we reported on a product called “Lovely, a sextoy/fitness tracker for your penis”.

The i.Con Smart Condom works similarly to other fitness trackers: Using nanochips and sensors, the sex tracker will record the speed of your thrusts, total number of thrusts, frequency of sex, number of sex sessions, girth measurement of your penis, the different sex positions you use, and how many calories you burn during sex. The i.Con Smart Condom will be kept anonymously—unless you want to share with your friends, significant others, or flat-out strangers. Because yes, there’s an option for that.

i.Con Smart Condom
i.Con Smart Condom

Want one now?

Not so fast. While the device is available for preorder, the company won’t actually take your money—the U.S. equivalent of roughly $74—until they settle on a solid release date. There’s no official word on when that would be, but the company says they are shooting for a release sometime this year.

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How to Last Longer in Bed

You’ve tried crunching baseball stats. You’ve mentally replayed your last round of golf. You’ve outlined the steps to making your favorite sandwich. But the more you try to last longer in bed, the faster you finish—and you’re not alone.

Biofeedback

In general terms, this refers to the idea that you can regulate your own neurophysiology—or the way your body responds to physical sensations, Dr. Walsh explains.

While there are a lot of different types of biofeedback, he says one of the most common for lasting longer in bed is to bring yourself right to the edge of orgasm before stopping all sexual or masturbatory activity until you have your excitement under control.

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The Squeeze

The Squeeze

If you can feel your orgasm coming on, stop and squeeze right below the head of your penis. Apply firm pressure with your thumb and forefinger and focus the pressure on the urethra—the tube running along the underside of the penis, advises Ian Kerner, Ph.D., a sex therapist and author of She Comes First.

The squeeze technique can help yop last longer in bed by pushing blood out of the penis and momentarily decreasing sexual tension, which represses the ejaculatory response, Kerner says.

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Ladies First

Ladies First in bed

When you help her finish first—whether with your mouth, your fingers, or a toy—knowing she’s enjoyed an orgasm may relieve some of the pressure you’re feeling to last longer in bed, Kerner says. (Need some pointers? Check out our Beginners’ Guide To Mind-Blowing Sex.)

De-Sensitizers

Like the stuff dentists slather on your gums before jamming in the needle, there are topical sprays called “local anesthetics” that you can apply to your penis to lessen the sensation and keep control, Dr. Walsh says. “When used properly, you can adjust the amount of desensitization with these sprays, and it won’t transfer to your partner,” he adds.

He says some of his patients have had luck with a product called Promescent. (Dr. Walsh is in no way affiliated with the company that makes this product.)

5 Steps to Beat Premature Ejaculation

Men, you can last longer. For years, I silently battled premature ejaculation and test-drove every bizarre remedy I stumbled upon. Follow these exercises that finally worked for me.

Master masturbation

Masturbate with a woman’s orgasm in mind, not your own. In other words, take your time: Work up to 15 minutes. Bring yourself close to the point of no return, but don’t let yourself ejaculate until time is up.

Squeeze to beat premature ejaculation

Pinpoint ejaculatory inevitability

Masters and Johnson broke the process of sexual response into four phases: excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. It’s the plateau and orgasm phases we’re most concerned with, as most men crash through the former, straight into the latter.

The trick is to slow down and recognize that there’s a spectrum of feelings throughout the process of sexual response and to recognize your own point of ejaculatory inevitability. Rate your sexual excitement on a scale of 1 to 10. Try keeping yourself at 7.

Sexercise
Sexercise

Sexercise

Do your Kegels. A Kegel is an exercise that helps tighten the pubococcygeal (PC) muscles of the pelvic floor. Both men and women have them, and you can become familiar with the muscle group by cutting off the flow of urine and then starting and stopping it repeatedly. (Begin with a full bladder.)

Press, don’t thrust

Tease her, taunt her: Press the head of your penis into her clitoral head. Linger in her vaginal entrance, where the most sensitive nerve endings are. When you do have intercourse, focus on small, shallow movements that penetrate the first 2 to 3 inches of her vaginal canal. Press your penis against her G-spot. You’ll last longer if you’re not thrusting vigorously.

Keep your private parts healthy

“How to keep your private parts healthy ?,” says Steven Lamm, M.D., an assistant professor at the New York University School of Medicine and the author of The Hardness Factor: How to Achieve Your Best Health and Sexual Fitness at Any Age.

If you’re stressed out from work or poor relationships, suffering from depression, addicted to alcohol or drugs, or woefully overweight and out of shape, that miraculous mechanical wonder between your legs won’t work as well as it could.

Lose the Belly

Eat a healthy diet and exercise regularly to achieve ideal body weight and eliminate the fat around your gut. Abdominal fat blocks the testosterone that should be available to you, which in turn affects sexual functioning. A fat gut is a bad marker for overall health—including your sexual health.

Your penis is a barometer for your heart and artery health or a “canary in the coal mine” that can warn you of impending trouble. That’s because a penile artery is quite a bit narrower than a coronary artery. If plaque and artery hardening is starting to occur, it’ll often show up first by affecting your erection.

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Quit Smoking

Quit Smoking

“Smoking just clenches down on your blood vessels and prevents them from being reactive,” says Dr. Lamm.

Nicotine restricts penile blood flow and weakens erections. It contributes to plaque buildup in the arteries, making smokers twice as likely to experience erectile dysfunction.

Take a Walk Every Day

When you exercise, blood flow increases—blood rushes through the endothelial cells (the lining of the blood vessels) and stimulates them to make more nitric oxide, a key chemical involved in producing erections.

“The healthier a man is, the more nitric oxide he produces, and the harder his erection is,” says Dr. Lamm. Also, exercise has been shown to be as effective as medication in reducing symptoms of mild depression, another downer for penis performance.

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Take a Walk Every Day

Do a Ball Check

Testicular cancer strikes nearly 8,000 men a year, mostly young men between the ages of 15 and 40. When caught early enough, testicular cancer can be cured more than 95 percent of the time.

Left undetected, though, and it can spread to other parts of the body. Check in with your boys once a month. Here’s the play-by-play from Men’s Health urology advisor Larry Lipshultz, M.D., chief of the division of male reproductive medicine at Baylor College of Medicine.

Penis-Size Study ‘Am I Normal?’

Overview

For some men, Penis-Size Study ‘Am I Normal?’ love has long been a battle of inches. But a new report revealing the “definitive” length of typical manhood may let many guys breathe easier — even as they, undoubtedly, grab a ruler. And for dudes who come up short against the average dimensions of other fellas, sex experts are quick to nix the tired notion that bigger is better.

So how does the regular man size up? The mean length of a flaccid penis is 3.6 inches, and the mean length of an erection is 5.16 inches, according to a paper titled “Am I Normal?” published Tuesday in the British Journal of Urology.

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Penis-Size Study ‘Am I Normal?’

To ascertain such delicately precise numbers, British researchers assessed the merits of 96 previous papers dealing with male private parts, excluding most because they focused on health issues like erectile dysfunction. For this meta analysis, that left 20 valid studies, each conducted to gauge a dude’s height and circumference down there. The total members in this unique scientific gathering: 15,521.

Penis-size study ‘am I normal?’

The project’s goal, said lead author Dr. David Veale, was to construct “nomograms” — graphical representations — of penis measurements spanning all ages and races. “The nomogram provides reassurance about what a normal size of a penis is,” said Veale, a consultant psychiatrist at the South London and Maudsley NHS Trust.

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Penis-Size

 

For many women, the only size that matters “is usually the girth,” Veale wrote in an email. “This is because the most sensitive part of the vagina is in the outer regions.” In the paper, Veale and colleague add: “Men may present to urologists or sexual medicine clinics with a concern with their penis size, despite their size falling within a normal range. This type of concern is commonly known as ‘small penis anxiety’ or ‘small penis syndrome.’ ”

Causes Sexual Problems in Men

A sexual problem, or sexual dysfunction, refers to a problem during any phase of the sexual response cycle that prevents the individual or couple from experiencing satisfaction from the sexual activity. The sexual response cycle has four phases: excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution.

Causes Sexual Problems in Men
Causes Sexual Problems in Men

While research suggests that sexual dysfunction is common (43% of women and 31% of men report some degree of difficulty), it is a topic that many people are hesitant to discuss. Fortunately, most cases of sexual dysfunction are treatable, so it is important to share your concerns with your partner and doctor.

What Causes Sexual Problems?

Sexual dysfunction can be a result of a physical or psychological condition.

Causes Sexual Problems in Men
Causes Sexual Problems in Men
  • Physical causes: Many physical and/or medical conditions can cause problems with sexual function. These conditions include diabetes,heart and vascular (blood vessel) disease, neurological disorders, hormonal imbalances, chronic diseases such as kidney or liver failure, and alcoholism and drug abuse. In addition, the side effects of certain medications, including some antidepressant drugs, can affect sexual desire and function.
  • Psychological causes: These include work-related stress and anxiety, concern about sexual performance, marital or relationship problems, depression, feelings of guilt, and the effects of a past sexual trauma.

10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex (Part 1)

Sex not only feels good. It can also be good for you. Here’s what a healthy sex life can do for you.

1. Helps Keep Your Immune System Humming
“Sexually active people take fewer sick days,” says Yvonne K. Fulbright, PhD a sexual health expert.

People who have sex have higher levels of what defends your body against germs, viruses, and other intruders. Researchers at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania found that college students who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of the a certain antibody compared to students who had sex less often.

10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex
10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex

You should still do all the other things that make your immune system happy, such as:

Eat right.
Stay active.
Get enough sleep.
Keep up with your vaccinations.
Use a condom if you don’t know both of your STD statuses.
2. Boosts Your Libido
Longing for a more lively sex life? “Having sex will make sex better and will improve your libido,” says Lauren Streicher, MD. She is an assistant clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern University’s Feinberg School of Medicine in Chicago.

Boosts Your Libido
Boosts Your Libido

For women, having sex ups vaginal lubrication, blood flow, and elasticity, she says, all of which make sex feel better and help you crave more of it.

3. Improves Women’s Bladder Control
A strong pelvic floor is important for avoiding incontinence, something that will affect about 30% of women at some point in their lives.

Improves Women’s Bladder Control
Improves Women’s Bladder Control

Good sex is like a workout for your pelvic floor muscles. When you have an orgasm, it causes contractions in those muscles, which strengthens them.

4. Lowers Your Blood Pressure
Research suggests a link between sex and lower blood pressure, says Joseph J. Pinzone, MD. He is CEO and medical director of Amai Wellness.

“There have been many studies,” he says. “One landmark study found that sexual intercourse specifically (not masturbation) lowered systolic blood pressure.” That’s the first number on your blood pressure test.

5. Counts as Exercise

Counts as Exercise
Counts as Exercise

“Sex is a really great form of exercise,” Pinzone says. It won’t replace the treadmill, but it counts for something.

Sex uses about five calories per minute, four more calories than watching TV. It gives you a one-two punch: It bumps up your heart rated uses various muscles.

So get busy! You may even want to clear your schedule to make time for it on a regular basis. “Like with exercise, consistency helps maximize the benefits,” Pinzone says.

6 Things Every Guy Wants During Sex

You obviously shouldn’t let a man dictate how you behave in bed. But in case you were wondering, we’re pretty simple creatures in the sack, really. We don’t want you to do anything outrageous or weird—just a little cowgirl here and there. Some other things men enjoy during sex include the below.

1. We want you to talk dirty.

6 Things Every Guy Wants During Sex
6 Things Every Guy Wants During Sex

It’s not like you need to narrate everything that’s happening, but you’d be surprised what a few well-placed dirty words can do to a guy. Not everyone is comfortable doing this, but there’s no need to venture too far out of your comfort zone. Words and phrases like “wet,” “feels so good,” and “harder” can still work wonders. Just don’t get too clinical: “I can confirm your penis is inside my vagina” isn’t going to do it for anyone.

2. We want you to take control sometimes.

6 Things Every Guy Wants During Sex
6 Things Every Guy Wants During Sex

There are few things hotter than a girl who knows what she wants, and there’s a lot of different ways to communicate that to a guy. It doesn’t mean you have to bust out whips and leather restraints and boss us around (but you could). It could be something as simple as pushing us down on the bed and pinning our arms down over our heads while you’re on top. Taking control of which position we’re moving to next can also be really hot. Just like talking dirty, this doesn’t have to be anything too complicated or filthy.

3. We want you to initiate new positions.

6 Things Every Guy Wants During Sex
6 Things Every Guy Wants During Sex

We really like it when you throw us a curveball. If there’s a new position you’ve found that you want to try, please go for it. It can be some hugely creative, elaborate sex circus that involves a Jacuzzi, whipped cream and bananas but introducing a modification to old standbys like doggy or missionary can also work. Don’t even worry about whether or not the position ends up “working” for the two of you. It’s a turn-on just knowing we’re doing something you want to try.

4. We want to be surprised.

6 Things Every Guy Wants During Sex
6 Things Every Guy Wants During Sex

I’ll admit, some guys can be intimidated if you start pulling out vibrators out from underneath the mattress in the middle of sex. But throwing some new things in there to shake up your lovemaking is really never a bad idea. You can even make the sex itself a surprise: jump your significant other in the hallway or on the stairs and just turn it into a sex session. Moments like that, where you can’t control yourself and just have to have us are always appreciated. Introducing some costumes, his-and-her lubricants, toys, and role-playing can also work. Just keep in mind that some of this stuff is outside of people’s comfort zones. Make sure you know what your guy likes before you bust out the latex nun outfit and rubber fist.

5. We want to watch you.

6 Things Every Guy Wants During Sex
6 Things Every Guy Wants During Sex

Visual stimulation really gets guys going. Choosing positions like cowgirl or reverse cowgirl where we can really get a view of what’s happening is hugely arousing. Alternatively, any position can benefit from a well-placed mirror where we can get a full view of the action. If you’re feeling really courageous, let your man watch you while you touch yourself. If you really want to drive him crazy, don’t let him touch or kiss you during the session, so he gets really worked up. This also has the added benefit of showing him what turns you on because he can see how you get yourself off.

6. We want you to feed us pizza.

This one might just be me, but I have a feeling it isn’t.

10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex (Part 2)

Sex not only feels good. It can also be good for you. Here’s what a healthy sex life can do for you.

6. Lowers Heart Attack Risk
A good sex life is good for your heart. Besides being a great way to raise your heart rate, sex helps keep your estrogen and testosterone levels in balance.

Lowers Heart Attack Risk
Lowers Heart Attack Risk

“When either one of those is low you begin to get lots of problems, like osteoporosis and even heart disease,” Pinzone says.

Having sex more often may help. During one study, men who had sex at least twice a week were half as likely to die of heart disease as men who had sex rarely.

7. Lessens Pain
Before you reach for an aspirin, try for an orgasm.

“Orgasm can block pain,” says Barry R. Komisaruk, PhD, a distinguished service professor at Rutgers, the State University of New Jersey. It releases a hormone that helps raise your pain threshold.

 Lessens Pain
Lessens Pain

Stimulation without orgasm can also do the trick. “We’ve found that vaginal stimulation can block chronic back and leg pain, and many women have told us that genital self-stimulation can reduce menstrual cramps, arthritic pain, and in some cases even headache,” Komisaruk says.

8. May Make Prostate Cancer Less Likely
Going for the gusto may help ward off prostate cancer.

Men who ejaculated frequently (at least 21 times a month) were less likely to get prostate cancer during one study, which was published in the Journal of the American Medical Association.

May Make Prostate Cancer Less Likely
May Make Prostate Cancer Less Likely

You don’t need a partner to reap this benefit: Sexual intercourse, nocturnal emission, and masturbation were all part of the equation.

It’s not clear that sex was the only reason that mattered in that study. Lots of factors affect cancer risk. But more sex won’t hurt.

9. Improves Sleep
You may nod off more quickly after sex, and for good reason.

“After orgasm, the hormone prolactin is released, which is responsible for the feelings of relaxation and sleepiness” after sex, says Sheenie Ambardar, MD. She is a psychiatrist in West Hollywood, Calif.

Improves Sleep
Improves Sleep

10. Eases Stress
Being close to your partner can soothe stress and anxiety.

Ambardar says touching and hugging can release your body’s natural “feel-good hormone.” Sexual arousal releases a brain chemical that revs up your brain’s pleasure and reward system.

Eases Stress
Eases Stress

Sex and intimacy can boost your self-esteem and happiness, too, Ambardar says. It’s not only a prescription for a healthy life, but a happy one.